Mommy Mondays: Top 3 Things to Remember Always Being Home!
I've been working from home since 2012. I have found over the years that many women have moved from working in person to at home, and even though my husband is a stay at home father (explained before and later in this) I tend to do a lot on my own. My daughter is also doing her school from home so during the day I'm not only an employee for a company, I'm a learning coach, and a Mother. Here are just some tips that help me get through the days that may assist you all as you transition!
1. Do not panic if you get handed many things at once. I have to tell myself this all the time. I'll be working on two jobs at the same time from home (I have an on and off part time marketing job as well as my other job) and suddenly, my daughter needs help with 4th grade math. On top of that, I have many people that are overseas that come to me with questions and comments about work that have to be answered quickly. I've learned one very important thing and that is prioritize. Your daughter needs help, and most of the time that is the reason you are working from home right? You wanted to be able to assist your children, spend more time with them, etc. Fine, tell your co-workers "give me two minutes." and quickly help them. If you can't do it in a couple of minutes, tell your child to pat the head and rub the tummy for a couple of minutes and catch up your work! Just don't do both at the same time. By the time you're done your heart will be going so fast you won't want to slow down and people will tell you to "calm down" when you're calm.
2. Take care of yourself every day. This is one I tend not to do, and I should but it's so hard when you get run down. My daughter finishes school and immediately you go from teacher to parent again. But, you're still working. By mid-day you're starting to wonder if your work is even getting done at the quality it should. I've also learned as a mother that even though my husband is very hands on with our daughter, I tend to want to be in charge. Not his fault, I just feel like if I don't see what is happening then if it goes wrong how can I fix it? Some days, I should just hand him the reins but...I don't. So take care of yourself as a mother! Soon as you can tell your husband he needs to take care of the kids so you can go hide in the bed room! Sneak a snickers bar, sit in silence, take a bite and savor it. If not you'll get cranky and you don't want to be cranky. Believe me.
Finally, this is really important you must remember this every day: YOU ARE ONLY HUMAN! Society expects women today to somehow be perfect robots. We're expected to wake up, wear make up and dress perfectly, make gorgeous breakfasts, send the kids off to school, do laundry and clean the house while somehow working 8 hours from home, help the kids with homework, make dinner (see how I forgot lunch since most of us don't get to eat mid day?), all while the husband goes to work and comes home. You're a human, not a cyborg. If you can't get the laundry done, just do it the next day! If you didn't do dishes, well he's perfectly capable of doing it even if he does it wrong. The bed doesn't need to be made every day if your back is killing you. Listen to your body. You only get one life with the family you're with right now, so relax and enjoy those days with your kids! Mess is fun, mess may be annoying but it also means...your home and children are loved.
Elizabeth is a wife to her wonderful husband, a work at home mother to her beautiful little girl and a blogger for some time now. When she isn't spending time with her "Livvybug", or laughing with her husband, she is looking for new review opportunities and writing or singing along to classic rock and pop music!